This was originally posted on vanslaars.com in January of 2007. If it sounds familiar, that’s why.
I used to work with kids and it was very interesting to see how the different age groups interacted with each other. With the 4 and 5 year olds conversations would go something like this (the conversation itself is completely hypothetical and the names are made up… it was a long time ago):
[ME]
“Today we are going to talk about manners, who can tell me something that somebody with good manners does?”
lots of little hands shoot up…
“Ok, Johnny…”
[Johnny]
“You should say please.”
[ME]
“Very good. Ok, Kyle, can you think of anything else?”
[Kyle]
“You should always say thank you!”
[Bobby (calling out)]
“My dog likes peanut butter!”
WTF!?
Bobby had nothing to add, but he really wanted to be part of the conversation. When a 5 year old does it, it’s cute and usually pretty funny.
Here’s the problem…I see this same behavior from adult professionals all over the web. It’s what I call the “Me Too, Complex”. People with this complex comment on blogs and forums without adding anything, they just want to participate. I’m sure I have been guilty of this in the past.
This behavior can manifest itself in several forms, from the “I agree so I will now restate the same thing you just said” response, to the “I have no basis for my opinion, and won’t back it up but you are wrong” response.
I think blogs and forums are a great outlet for public discussion, sharing ideas and learning new things. Comments are a great place to expand on the original author’s thoughts and ideas. Comments such as “Thanks”, “Great Article” and “I agree completely” are great, they encourage the author and can add credibility to the idea in the eyes of the reader. The key here is the comments here don’t add to the topic, but they are short enough to quickly glance over as you read the ongoing comments. There is no reason to restate anything, unless you are expanding on it, then by all means, expand away.
Comments don’t all have to be sugar coated. I’m all for a healthy debate, just ask anybody that knows me ;). If you disagree or want to point out a mistake, do it. But, If all you have to add to the thread is negativity, you should keep that to yourself. I appreciate it when I get a comment that tells me that my way isn’t the best way and (here’s the important part) explains a better way.
A comment such as, “This is a bad approach” with nothing else is pointless, you might as well leave a comment that says “My dog likes peanut butter”… maybe your dog does like peanut butter, but that doesn’t add anything to the conversation (unless, of course, the conversation is about things your pets like to eat).
When somebody takes the time to write about a strange bug and how to fix it, if all you can think is “<Insert Language or Technology> Sucks and that’s why you had this problem!” Keep it to yourself.. Maybe it does suck, but that wouldn’t do anything but waste time… yours and other readers.
If you comment just because you want to be part of the conversation, try to break the habit, you’ll be making the world a better place.
Human Behavior, Thoughts
blogging, comments, noise